How To Deal With Recurring Feelings
Our hearts have a huge responsibility. One that our brains cannot handle. Bearing the weight of emotions. Of feelings. Both good and bad without any choice. But what happens when these feelings are recurring. Especially when they are bad. It’s hard to bear with it when we don’t know how to deal with these recurring feelings.
Any past traumatic and stressful event in our lives can negatively impact our brains in ways we don’t understand.
Those emotions, if not dealt with properly at that time, become repressed. Over time whenever you are stressed or in a crisis these emotions resurface. At this point you might be confused, having no idea how to deal with them.
Do you ignore them?
Do you dwell over them?
The answer to both the above questions is no.
Both of these ways have been proven by psychologists to be harmful ways of self management.
What you need to remember first is that you are not alone in this struggle. All of us experience these recurring emotions and some of us have dealt with them in the wrong way.
The question still stays the same, how to deal with these feelings?
Also read: How Accepting Emotions Can Improve Mental Health
#1 ACCEPT AND DEAL WITH THEM
When we feel emotions like hurt, anger and sadness strongly it’s important to realise that not dealing with them will have long term effects on our mental and physical health.
Strong feelings of anger and frustration may come from an unpleasant situation in your life that you want to change. As long as you don’t try and change the situation triggering these emotions you’ll be continuously affected and bothered by them.
Also read: How To Stop Ruminating?
#2 DO NOT RUMINATE
Rumination is the tendency to dwell of things both important and unimportant. It has terrible health consequences as well.
You need to let things go.
Also read: 50 Ways To Channel Negative Emotions
#3 FIND AN OUTLET
Even though making changes in your life will help cut down negative emotions, it won’t eliminate your triggers completely.
Finding a healthy outlet for your emotions will help reduce your mental burden.
Regular exercise will help increase dopamine levels giving an emotional lift as well as a healthy outlet.
Try to have fun. Even if it’s just a day out with friends or going out to lunch by yourself, find ways to laugh more.
Meditate your way out. It will help you find your space and peace of mind. It will give you the chance to sort out your feeling and move forward.
Also read: The Importance Of Mindfulness
#4 BECOME MORE MINDFUL
Mindfulness basically means to not let your emotions take over. When a certain feeling is aroused, you need to sit with it and distance yourself from it. Don’t identify with it.
If you get entangled with your feelings, you will lose your subjectivity.
Also read: Benefits Of Journaling
#5 JOURNAL DOWN YOUR THOUGHTS
Writing down how you feel can help release the weight on your heart to some extent.
Paper has more patience than people.
Journaling will help you achieve enough clarity to be able to see yourself and the situation subjectively.
Also read: List of Meditation Apps to Remove Stress From Your Life
